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Judge Yourself before Judging Others

“Judge nothing, you will be happy. Forgive everything, you will be happier. Love everything, you will be happiest.” ~Sri Chinmoy Oh yeah, this has been a big one for me. Huge in fact! On my journey of discovering the best version of myself I have come to the realisation that many of my thoughts were based in judgments of others. The amazing part is, that it has taken all this time (42 years) for me to recognise this behaviour. I used to think I had strong opinions, was decisive, and able to “evaluate” others quicker than anyone. I “got” people, I understood where they were coming from, their motivations, and why they said what they said and did what they did. I found myself falling back into old clichés like; “I don’t suffer fools” or “you can’t bullshit a bullshitter”. I was a highly skilled definer, and an even better dismisser. Once I’d figured you out, my opinions were set in stone. I didn’t leave much room for changing those opinions either. Once I’d decided, that was it, you were what you were, according to me. With the benefit of time and hindsight, I’ve come to realise that since I was actively embracing a life of personal growth (or “Discovering the best me,” as I like to call it), I somehow felt that gave me free rein to comment on what others were doing. I’ve also realised this is a common behaviour in those of us on the personal growth path. When we are seeking change for ourselves, we sometimes feel we can comment on (or seek change for) the lives of others—about how they should behave, about what is acceptable for them, and so on. I had some inexplicable sense of entitlement that validated my judgmental parts in behaving …Read More